The sins of the mother

When you meet a lady you unexpectedly walk into a whole pile of invisible issues.  Firstly, as we know, there are the daddy issues. This is a "can't win" issue! Because if a girl was brought up properly and Daddy had a good job and no issues and was brilliant, you have to match that or be better.  The other option was that Daddy left us, or was a drinker, or took drugs or was someone with no job.  In that circumstance you are dealing with someone else.  In fairness the second option usually comes with a tale provided by mum which expands the truth to a level. In that case I believe that every story has two sides.

As a guy who is trying to meet someone, both scenarios are frustrating. I have come to the conclusion that I cannot win. There is a phrase "for the sins of the father" and that is so true. 

Personally, I don't care what my mum has done and don't feel it relevant to my life.  Unfortunately, this is not the case when it comes to the female of the species. You will always be judged as not good enough or just like him, whether you meet him or not. Or or like him or not.  So your future happiness will be based on the life of her father or the beliefs held by her mother or siblings about him. Who or what you are is irrelevant. So, if you ever hear the words "you remind me of my Dad" either run or take the compliment.